post RP incontinence concerns
You and I had surgery about the same time, July 15th for me. I too am
not continent, pretty much the same pattern as yourself. I am down to
as little as 2 pads per day plus "security" at night which I really
don't need. The 2 pads/day is deceiving however in that this occurs
only on days when I'm home more or less all day and go to the bathroom
at every opportunity. At least now I can wander around the house for
a minute or two before I lose anything whereas a couple of months ago
I would lose everything on the way to the bathroom. If I'm not near a
bathroom I eventually lose everything and it's 4 pads/day.
I can see some improvement, the muscle is definitely stronger. I can
firmly clinch the muscle for as long as 2 minutes whereas before
surgery I could do it for only about 10 seconds. I can also hold a
full bladder first thing in the morning all the way to the bathroom
with no leaking, something I couldn't do the first month post-op.
Also, if I concentrate real hard I can hold it while standing and
walking but only for a few minutes or so until I get distracted. So,
there is progress but it's disappointingly slow. A number of sources
said 3 months is the median for continence. I've passed that now but
I am encouraged by the posts of others on the NG who became continent
months later.
Incidently, the two urologists I have (one for long-term care and the
other who did my lap surgery) are both surprised that I'm still
incontinent. In fact, the one who did the surgery is really
disappointed (hell - he's the one who did all the slicing). I guess
I'm hurting his statistics. Anyway, neither one suggested anything
else to do except Kegels until 18 months have passed. Both indicated
that when I regain continence I will not have to think continuously
about flexing the muscle, it will more or less act on its own with
little conscious thought from me, similar to your neck muscles that
keep your head from falling over. That's good news. If I can
extrapolate my progess into the future, I expect to be dry before 18
months although by "dry" I mean one pad per day to take care of
sneezes which I'm not sure I will ever be able to control.
Good luck to you and keep us(me) posted on your progress. You, I,
David S., et al are not the "wunderkinds" who are dry on day one - we
have our own little sub-club.
Take care,
Dave Perry
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