lisas sister

My sister Lisa passed away just less than 2 months ago. She had
undiagnosed emphysema and septic pneumonia. The saddest thing is, she
went to the Dr. the day before she died, and he sent her home with an
inhaler. I am sooo made at that Dr., so I guess this is where the anger
part of the grieving comes in? She was just 33, almost 34. We were
close, Im 31. Lisa lived a traumatic life, but she was a survivor, to
the max. Abuse, mental illness, drug addictions...she struggled
daily.Finally, God though she had struggled enough, and took her back
home. I feel her watching over me, and It brings me peace. She
protected me in life, and I believe she is still looking over me in
heaven. Unexplainable things have happened since her death, which
baffle me to this day, but thats another posting...But, its making me a
more believer in God each day. I love her, and I am doing everything in
my power to keep her spirit alive. I am also seeking a grievance
against the state Medical Board for her dr.'s neglegence.
If you have lost a sibling, I understand. It may not be as hard as
losing a child, but its the next worst thing.

.kate

On 7 Aug 2005 00:45:01 -0700, "Lisa's Sister" <helliott322@gmail.com>
the following was posted in blue dry erase marker:

I think you're justified in being angry at the doctor and that it isn't
necessarily just part of the complexity of grief.

It's difficult to lose a loved one. I've lost my parents, a sibling, a
husband, and my only grandparent and it really just depended on the
relationship that I had with each person as to how difficult it was to
heal. I think it is harder to lose a child because, as parents, we're
supposed to keep our children safe. No one ever told us that there were
things we couldn't protect them from. Siblings usually have the longest
relationships of any family relationship... I'm sorry for your loss.

'Kate

daniel

On 7 Aug 2005 00:45:01 -0700, "Lisa's Sister" <helliott322@gmail.com>


I am so sorry about your loss of your dear Lisa. I think part of the
"journey of grief" is to discover our own ways of being true to the love we
have, and the memories we have, in spite of the one we love and remember
being gone. We could go on living and forget, but that wouldn't work. And
to lose hope and try to follow them too soon is not a true way to love.
You have to go through what *you* have to go through. Your own pain, your
own unique journey of discovery, your own "grief work" -- because this path
you're on now is as unique as your unique love for your sister.

Peace,
--
Daniel
deltaechomike@usa.net