usenetlyn

This was posted on one of my other ngs. Typical Fertile Myrtle blabbering:

"Jody, I indeed have another grandchild in the future, if not two, but my
daughter is going to have convince her hubby on that. The kids have decided 3
years apart is good so they said in a couple of years.... I said they could try
for our daughter's birthday as little Michael was born on his Daddy's 25th
birthday last year. My daughter said, oh no, let's try for their birthday and
make it three. She and I are planning on a girl next time. I'm praying about
it already. It worked for me when I had her. God hears the desires of our
hearts."

Can I just slap this stupid bitch upside her head?

Just curious. Anyone wanna help me?

-L.
(Just can't ****ing deal with it today...)

dryad

I might get a cramp, but I'm pretty sure I can reach across the Atlantic
and tickle their chins!

Dryad

kellyh

Yeeeesh!! Just picturing the mother and daughter shopping and "conspiring"
about how to convince the daughter's husband to have another baby. Oh, and
let's have the baby on *this* exact day!

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usenetlyn

Can you say "oops!"


Not to mention God's Special Intervention for the Chosen Few. <rolls eyes>

-L.

missannieok

Ouch, Pookie!

Loving you even when you're (understandably) cranky,
Annie

usenetlyn

No offense intended to anyone, but I don't believe that God chooses to
bestow infertility on those who "aren't worthy". That's the sentiment
I gained from what the lady posted, and I think it's a crock. I
pretty much mirror what Tara said.

-L.

tracy in texas

I'm IN !!!!
Where do they live ??
- Tracy in Texas.
- silently screaming -

missannieok

I getcha!

What she was referring to was a Bible verse that people often invoke
when they want something really bad:

"Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires
of your heart." Psalm 37:4

On the surface, it seems to say that if you are happily putting your
whole life into your relationship with God, He is obligated to give
you what you want. But what it is really saying is that if you put
Him first, He will give you desires for the right things. In the
Bible, there are so many examples of people who put God first, and it
didn't lead to getting whatever they wanted. It lead to them putting
their selfish desires aside, and instead having desires in line with
God's heart, the desire to serve others. Their lives were not problem
free. In fact, they were often worse--on the surface. But because
they were so content in their relationship with God, their hearts were
full of joy and peace, their priorities were in order because they had
been given desires for the right things.

In other words, it's about Him, it is not about me. When you are in
love with God, your desires are not self-centered, but they are shaped
by your desire to please Him by serving others.

In the same chapter, Psalm 37:23-24 says:

"The steps of a good man are ordered by the LORD, And He delights in
his way. Though he fall, he shall not be utterly cast down; For the
LORD upholds him with His hand."

Looking at that verse puts it all into context. No matter how good my
relationship with God is, I will have problems. I will fall. But
when I do, He'll help me to get back up.

God isn't Santa Claus, just sitting there in some remote place,
waiting to do whatever we tell Him to do, because He owes us for being
"good." I am far, far from perfect, but when I am really listening to
God, really surrendering myself to whatever He wants, I feel complete.
I don't feel perfect and owed, I feel complete. That's because when
my heart is really open to Him, He fills it with desires to do
specific things for Him, and it is always about being good to others,
not about fulfilling myself.

I can honestly say that while I have always wanted to adopt, I have
desired to have biological children first. Nothing wrong with that.
But if He gave me exactly what I desired, what I thought was initially
best, I wouldn't have what I do. And what I do have is pretty amazing
and beyond what I could have ever imagined. I feel complete without a
bio child. And in fact, a bio child would pale in comparison. I mean
that.

I know you didn't ask for a Bible study. I just wanted to show a
different way of looking at that verse, because the way it was
originally interpreted was potentially hurtful to those of us who have
not borne children. You know how blessed I feel, and that there's no
way I believe that my infertility has been a curse for my lack of
perfection. There are just too many examples of women in the Bible
who were infertile, and not because they were bad people.

I believe everything happens for a reason, and that bad situations can
be turned into good. That's what I read in the Bible in Romans 8:28,
and what I am living as we speak. :-)

Love,
Annie