snowcat

Some CPNs were due to come and see me to give me grief counselling, after
the death of my mum when I was six. They refused to come in the end because
I had 'too many' issues. I mean, WTF? I can see what Theodora means when she
says that borderlines are fucked. I feel it now.

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glasshousejohn

I don't see why a CPN would give grief counselling? They should normally
refer you to a specialist such as CRUSE
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snowcat

Perhaps it's different where you live, John.

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glasshousejohn

I'm down here in Kent and after a suicide attempt after my girlfriend died
the staff at Medway put me in touch with CRUSE as they felt unable to help.
So maybe it does differ from region to region.

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theodora

Snowcat

i wasn't joking when i said we were fucked as a group of people with mental
health problems. Professionals dont want to know us. We are too
complicated.

That's why we have to end up using groups like this to support ourselves.

my cpn always wants to talk about using lavender to calm me down, whereas my
doctor thinks 40mg of valium is better! I'm glad I've got my GP as my CPN
(nice woman that she is) can't see my problems.

Like you, I had a parent die when I was young (12) and no-one has ever given
me grief counselling. my mum never brings my dad up in conversation, so i
dont get the chance to talk to her about it either.

Hopefully, you 'll get the support you need. Keep pestering them. Ask
questions. If you feel you can't do it, then take someone along with you
that can.

Good luck

Lisa
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