randall

It would be helpful to the self esteem of some here (like me) to know what
the average number of minutes of foreplay are needed for others to achieve
erection, with or without viagra/cialis. Am I the only one who need tactile
stimulation for several minutes when with a hot babe? I wish I could have
an instant hardon when in bed with a hot babe-- those days are gone. I am
46 and have ED (primarily performance anxiety and lack of experience); I
find I need about 5 minutes of genital massage/manipulation to achieve
erection-- visual stimulation alone (even with a totally hot babe) just
does nothing-- unless it is virtual (a real live babe causes performance
anxiety and so I need tactile stimulation, but viagra/cialis followed by
just me viewing ****/etc will allow me to get an erection without tactile).
Anybody else care to share on this matter?

randall

Yeah mornings are easier. Stress? Big time-- this was only my third
occasion to have intercourse, and the babe was extrememly hot (24, had just
auditioned for Playboy a couple of days prior, so you can imagine how
attractive she was)-- so the performance anxiety was certainly a big issue.
I did lay off the caffeine for a couple of days prior. I am hoping with
more experience the performance anxiety will decrease and ease of erection
will occur.

halfmast

Excuse me, but do you mean the third occasion in your entire life, or
the third occasion with a possible Playboy model, or something
in-between?

randall

Third occasion in my life. Religious fundamentalism via a bible church in
my twenties messed me up regarding *** as it was taught as taboo. My soul
mate killed herself as a result of that church screwing her up mentally
(she was gorgeous and 21), that was 15 years ago. Took me years to even
partially debrainwash-- lost my virginity 8 years ago, then had another
occasion for intercourse soon after that, but nothing for the past 7
years-- i am just not into clubbing / bar hopping so it is not so easy to
get into ***ual relationships now. Pathetic I know, but I am in my forties
now and missed out on all the great opportunities of the twenties, but I
guess you go with what you can in life. So honest, this current babe is 24
and a playboy quality model, yet it was only my third occassion for
intercourse in my life, honest; so the performance anxiety surely plays a
role, as well as no longer being 25 years old and able to spring up at the
sight of a gorgeous woman. I put a lot of pressure on myself, not knowing
what the norms are, figuring I should spring up an erection at the sight of
her ****, but it takes 5 minutes of genital fondling for by me or her to
get an erection, and i was unable to ejaculate (though i can when
masturbating at home)-- surely the anxiety and the use of a condom did not
help matters.

john

We all get hard in different ways and 5 minutes of fondling seems like a
normal and great way to me, so don't worry. Let your partner have fun with
you and enjoy the sensations. You have some old mental baggage that you seem
to be discarding nicely so just keep going slowly along as you are. A fun
evening isn't just the first 5 minutes. Think of the whole night and sharing
pleasure with your partner and let her share with you. You'll be fine.

randall

are....

Yeah the mental baggage is tough-- because you can not turn it off like a
light switch. I have been working on it though-- actually became an atheist
this last year after much research on religion which messed me up big time
in making me think premarital *** was wrong. I am hoping this next year
will be great for exploring and enjoying ***-- with a little help from
Vitamins V and T (as in viagra and tadalifil)

randall

Thanks for the tips!

blder337

Other thoughts. If you are kind of inexperienced consider Viagara. Its great
but does not work a miracle. Only works for you if you are mentally ***ually
aroused - then it will help get it up and keep it up.

I'm 25 and use V sometimes if I want to be sure to "go" for a long nite making
sure she also gets her full pleasure more than once or twice. A not uncommon
prob - a guy pops off too fast and says that was great - she is still waiting
for hers and he can't do it again (in time).

If that's a prob I suggest solo practice without the V. Get a hard on,
masturbate, but don't *** as long possible and work at keeping it HARD. (LOL
practice can be fun) Mentally stimulate yourself and things such as watching
horny movies can help the practice session a lot.

Good luck bro.