Have you heard about this one? (divorce)
I've seen publicly and privately schooled kids who are impulsive and who
have poor social skills, as well. There's no "one true way" with regards
to education. What works for one family, or one particular child in one
family, will not work for every other child or family.
I am a homeschooling parent. My daughter is 14 and has been homeschooled
since 2000. She already had a pretty good start on social skills, but I
don't think that had anything to do with school. She had a good start
before she ever went to a school, as she was born into our very close
family and surrounded by friends and family all her life. Her father and
I agreed before getting married that we would rear any children we had
to be good people who were pleasant company. We kept that goal in mind
even after our divorce, and still agreed on it when he died in 1999.
Katie takes five dance classes and three martial arts classes a week, as
well as being involved in Girl Scouts. Those activities wouldn't
"socialize" her, though (well, Scouts could, to some extent). They do
allow her a chance to be around different people in different
situations, and to learn skills I certainly could not teach her.
She uses her social skills in our household, where she lives with me and
my two partners. She uses them with her extended family, visiting both
sets of grandparents as well as other relatives. She uses them within
her network of friends, especially with the band of roving ****s who
land at our house for a few days at a time every few weeks, then move on
to their other homes (her included). She uses them with our neighbors,
people in our homeschooling group, our extended network of friends of
all ages, etc.
Is she typical? Are we? No, I don't think she. We're blessed. But we are
a homeschooling family, and we aren't that unusual. One of the good
things about homeschooling is that it gives us more flexibility
regarding our time, so that we can do things like have a bunch of kids
over for days at a time. We can babysit a friend's sick child at the
drop of a hat. We can go over and visit grandparents during the week.
Katie's been able to do volunteer work at a hospice and elsewhere.
That flexibility is shared by all homeschooling families, and many do
use it in ways that enrich their lives. Homeschooling - at least, doing
so successfully - is a way of life as much as an educational philosophy.
Namaste,
Cyn
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