expecting2in2000@aol.com

Hi Everyone-

I just wanted to introduce myself to the group. This seems to be a great,
supportive group of people here.

My name's Andrea. Dh and I conceived naturally on the first try back in June
of 1997. We were completely devistated when I had a missed m/c 3 months later.
After trying for 6 months I once again conceived and again miscarried a couple
weeks later.

Eight months later we still could not conceive so we started seeing an RE.
After tons of tests I was successfully treated for a cervical/uterine
infection, and dh was diagnosed with low motility. The RE told us we would
never conceive on our own due to dh's low motility. We got pg with twins
during our first IUI with Clomid/Humegon in July, 1999. They were born March
22, 2000.

Our miracle girls, Jordan and Madison, are now 3 1/2 years old and are the
light of our lives. Dh and I have not used b/c for the past 2 1/2 years. We
haven't been trying to get pg. but we haven't been not trying either. I turned
34 a couple weeks ago and it suddenly hit me that if we are going to have a
third child then we need to get serious about it. I suggested to dh that we go
to the RE and have an IUI w/o fertility drugs, but he wants us to try on our
own (I guess because we got pg. naturally twice before, but that was so long
ago). I know he would do it if I pushed, but I don't want to do that. We
would also have to pay for it ourselves since we don't have IF coverage since I
quit my job to be a SAHM when the girls were born.

Anyway, this will be our first month really trying. I ovulate regularly, but I
have my doubts that we will get pg. due to the low motility issue. I have
an appt. with my regular OB/GYN in a couple weeks and I will see what he has to
say about our chances.

I have two questions for you all also.......
#1 Do you need to be TTC to participate in this ng?
#2 What do you all say to people when they ask if/when you're going to have
another child?
I get very uncomfortable when people ask me that (it happens frequently,
especially lately). Sometimes I say "We'll see." and leave it at that and
sometimes I explain that we don't know if we can have anymore children. I just
need a good 'canned' answer that I can use every time the question pops up.

Thanks,
Andrea
twin girls-Jordan & Madison (b. 3/22/00).....conceived w/ Humegon/Clomid & IUI
2 angels

megnmattbyrne@webtv.net (megan

Hi Andrea! I recognize you from the twins group! No, I don't think that
you need to be TTC to participate. I am not TTC at the moment, but plan
on it again in the future. Or maybe they just tolerate me here! LOL

I think that is great that you are trying again. When people ask me, or
tell me that I am done b/c I have 1 of each. I just simply say, 'no, I
would like another one'. This is my dream, I always wanted to be a MOM.
Yes, it's wonderful that I have "one of each", but if I can have more,
than I am gonna!

It *is* a great group of woman here. We have 2 ladies on the 2ww wait
now, Annie and Clarice and a few more are gearing up for IUI's come
later Fall.

Best of luck to you!!!!

Megan
Mommy to miracle twins...
Aidan & Alexis
Born 9-28-02

leigh

First I want to express my deepest sorrow for your losses. It's never easy
and I know how scary it can be ttc when you know that m/c is part of your
history but you've got a great group of ladies to vent to when you need. As
for your first question... the answer is no, throughout my stay here (both
times) we've had people that were trying to decide if they should ttc again
as well as people who had already decided to ttc again but just hadn't hit
that start date and people who were no longer ttc for various reasons. You
are most welcome here! :-)

Now for the second question... I'm not necessarily the best person to give
advice on this one because my mother taught me not to take it lying down
when people make insensitive remarks without thinking. Considering the age
difference between DH and I (17 years) we don't usually get asked about
having more but when we do I just say straight out that we've been trying
for 2 years now and are about to move to the next stage of treatment. I find
this especially effective in a group of people because I'm guaranteed to
only get asked the question once during the evening. I've found that when
you calmly and intelligently let them know how insensitive thay are they
tend to smarten up... at least around you. What we usually get though is the
"well, we know that *you're* done having kids" with that self-rightous smug
smirk on their faces. I just look at them and say that Mother had 8 kids in
20 years and I don't plan to stop until I at least match her unless the
doctors say that I have to stop. That puts them in their place... Like I
said, I'm a bad person to give advice in this area.

Best of luck and may your stay here be shorter than mine. :-)

--
Leigh
14 unsuccessful cycles of Clomid
PCOS, now on Metformin (1500 mg/day)
50 mg Clomid on CD5 -CD9
low sperm count for DH
.... gearing up for our first IUI

expecting2in2000@aol.com

Thank you Leigh.

When do you expect your IUI to be performed?

Good Luck (fingers crossed for you),
Andrea
twin girls-Madison & Jordan
3 1/2 yrs. old
ttc#3

delicioustruffles

Hi, Andrea. :-)

#1) Not really. You just have to be aware that at certain times people
might be a bit more sensitive to talk about children. We usually don't
mention existing children too much. This group is more about the
struggle to get another child. It's not that you *can't* talk about
your kids, it just if you do it's how your existing children are
affected by IF, if you KWIM.

Many of us are lurkers now. I still read and give silent support. I
drop out of lurkdom occasionally. I lurk because I don't want to
inadvertently hurt anyone due to my recent graduation. But know I'm
here, cheering everyone on, and hoping for more graduates.

I think it's always a good idea to read the FAQ (or re-read it
occasionally). You'll find this group to be very supportive.

#2) For us, it was more people assumed we were finished because we had
b/g twins. The "Oh, a boy and a girl. Well you must be done then."
Grrrr. I usually just gave them a "look" and they changed the subject.
I'm very good at "looks". LOL! :-D

--
Brigitte aa #2145

"Great spirits have always found violent opposition from mediocrities.
The latter cannot understand it when a man does not thoughtlessly submit
to hereditary prejudices but honestly and courageously uses his
intelligence."
~ Albert Einstein

leigh

Probably Nov. or Dec. depending on how long this cycle is. I'm not doing
Clomid for this cycle, just the Met, so there's no telling how long my cycle
will be. Dec. will be much more convenient for us since we'll be better
settled in here at the new house and DH's work will be more likely to let
him have the entire day off so that he can be there during the IUI which is
what we both want.

--
Leigh
14 unsuccessful cycles of Clomid
PCOS, now on Metformin (1500 mg/day)
50 mg Clomid on CD5 -CD9
low sperm count for DH
.... gearing up for our first IUI

rebekah staggs

have


I've never used it, but I've always thought it..."When are you going to get
some tact?"

Or... "were you born rude, nosey and insensitive or did you take special
training?"

Okay, up way too late tonight.

- Rebekah Staggs
http://www.staggs.pair.com/jaenest

michelle podnar

Hello Andrea,

Welcome. I am fairly new to this group also (although I have been a member
of the other infertility sites for about 4 years).

My DD is 14 months, and we have been ttc for the last couple months, but I
just started charting again this month.(dh also wants to try the old fashion
way for a while)....If nothing happens by Christmas, he has agreed to get an
SA done, and I will start cycle monitoring to see if everything is working
properly, and go from there...

Don't have any advice about what to tell people who ask if you are having
more, since DD is 14 months old, the questions are just starting.....but
mainly I get the "your STILL breastfeeding!!!???", so I don't think that
they anticipate me having any more for a while.

Hope you stay here is relatively short.....
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lilyk@comcast.net

Hi Andrea,

just wanted to say, welcome and good luck with ttc...

lily

expecting2in2000@aol.com

LOL! I keep thinking the day is going to come when I just snap and say
something like that. LOL!

Andrea
twin girls-Madison & Jordan (IUI w/ Clomid/Humegon)
3 1/2 yrs. old
ttc #3