16th March 20:03
Meeting girls (bruise shy shyness down)
No, I've not met them. Just an admirer of their work. These two are
responsible for a good portion of the knowledge from ASF of old.
According to them they were both shy and reclusive until they just got
tired of it and went about changing their lives.
Here's what you have to do, and it sounds weird. Crash and Burn,
baby. You need to get shot down, hard in public. Like a "get away
from me, asshole" kind of rejection. One would think that this would
make you even more afraid, but it doesn't. What happens is you
immediately realize two things. One, you lived. A girl turning you
down doesn't leave a cut or bruise. In fact, you are really no worse
for wear. If this is the worst they can do, what is there to be
Second, there's a lot more where she came from. So this ONE girl
doesn't like you. Big ****ing deal. No matter how nice you try to
be, every day of your life at least one person is going to think 'God,
what a jerk.' The point being that you shouldn't worry. Someone's
going to think that anyway, and one more isn't going to change
anything. THis one don't like you, there's plenty more. DOn't even
Also, check out this post
I made a few days ago. It's a mental excercise to make you realize
that fear you feel is really excitement and exhilieration.
Good luck man.