nakedlightbulb

Church Lady: "Mmm, could it be....SATAN?"

Warlock: "You called?"
~>:-}>
Diana "Of the Moon"

coggè

LOL! hardly! I spent half the day yesterday taking my step-mother and my
cousin around to all the local wineries for wine tasting. My pastor's jazz
band plays at one of the wineries alot when they have public events or
private parties. Our church is not like Dana Carvey's "church lady"
representation at all. :-)

coggè

coggè

LOL I always thought that that character was very funny. When I worked
graveyard home health, I used to watch the comedy station all night and they
would have SNL marathons. I always like Jane Curtain's characters. I don't
have tv now, so I don't watch anything :-)

coggè

coggè

well, my dad has to talk constantly about bodily functions--farting and
diarrhea and what not--and it is often like being with a 12 year old boy.
Also, he lets my brother who is 16 do or say anything he wants and I wanted
to smack him a couple of times with his snotty mouth. They often encourage
my kids to do things that normally get them in trouble, which makes it hard.
But all in all, it was better than usual, probably because they usually
spend 8 or 10 days with us and this time it was only 3. And half the time
they were at my carnival following VBS. Dysfunctional goes without saying,
but it was better than most visits.

coggè

nakedlightbulb

Wow, you have a 16-year-old brother too? How odd...so do I! There's quite an
age gap there. Are you the oldest of your siblings, or was there just a big
gap of years before your parents' last baby came into the world? When my baby
brother was born, I was going on 17 and my younger sister (always the baby) was
12.


That's good. It's obviously because you kept them busy, and there wasn't
enough time to truly get down on each other's nerves. )


Diana "Of the Moon"

coggè

quite an

big

baby

baby) was


my step-mother and my Dad adopted him when I was 17 (yes I am the oldest).
My step-mother was unable to have children.


it doesn't take much--my husband said (his exact words) "You know your dad
can really be a prick" Because my dad comes off as the kind of person who
always is looking for a reason to argue with people or pick a fight. He has
no sense of humility at all and is often perceived as much of a know-it-all.
If you prove him wrong in one of his ideas, he gets pissed off. He is very
paranoid that people are all out to use or abuse him, due to his exceptional
knowlege of everything. On the up side, there were many occasions where
things happened where my husband would have been really pissed off at me or
the kids--and he restrained himself, because he wants to feel that he is
more in control and better than my dad--he didn't want my dad to have the
satisfaction of thinking that sort of behavior is ok.


We may not even go to see them at Christmas as planned (they will be in the
midst of a kitchen remodel then) but instead we may go to Disneyland. The
nice thing about NY is that I could go skiing while I would be there, but
believe it or not, it would actually be *more* expensive to go to NY than to
Disneyland--due to t5he airfare (we drive to Disney)

I am more and more accepting of the idea that I don't *need* to be around my
family of origin.

coggè

nakedlightbulb

I wish I could say the same. I've got no reliable job, no reliable friends,
and no chance of ever having a husband or partner to settle down with. My Mom
reminds me continually that she's not getting any younger and won't always be
there to support me if I fall. She's desperate to see me settled in a career
before she's gone. I know she's right and I worry about it day and night. I
want more than anything to grant her wish.

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Diana "Of the Moon"

d

This makes me really sad :-(
I think the fact you are getting out and working (considering how
awful you've been feeling) is a HUGE deal! It bothers me to no end to
see a parent pressuring their child. She needs to accept your
limitations and not judge you by 'what you do'! You are who you are,
and I really think you are a good person with a hell of a lot of
integrity as well as smarts. Is there any way to get through to her?
I mean, when she acts like this...she makes you feel like a big
disappointment, and that is not right! (Grrrrrrrrrrrrr)

Another thing I don't understand is why you think you will never have
a husband or partner? None of us know our future. I think there is
an excellent chance of that happening in your life. Why not? You
certainly have a lot to offer another person (I.M.H.O.)

Good thoughts,

D