kannan nair

Worried Well syndrome

This syndrome can grip into anyone who became scared of becoming
infected with hiv due to some action of their own. Even healthcare
workers are sometimes plagued by this syndrome. This can cause severe
monetary loss and affect the mental health of the sufferer and family.

Other people get into this syndrome after doing a risky or brothel ***.
Majority people experiencing this problem are those who once or few
times visited a prostitute. Most of the people visiting brothels or
prostitutes are married people and most of them are in the age group of
30 to 45. They ponder an idea of having some extra *** for a long time,
but stay monogamous and were good husbands. Due to some cir***stances
like - On a tour to another city or country, wife is away for a
vacation, attending a loose party with alcohol etc. they engage in a
risky behavior sans their hiv/std knowledge. At that time they may be
under the influence of alcohol and having an elevated mood. Their
hiv/std knowledge at that time will be too little. Having done that
stupid act, they start surfing web for hiv/std information.

Imagine his shock when he finds that, he need to wait for 3 months for
a clean HIV chit. He was thinking, it is like another VDRL test and can
be done in the same week to get cleared of the scare. Then some websites
write exaggerated stories about HIV and transmission and also lot about
other STD's. Especially Hepatitis B, C, Herpes etc.. and he reads all
this without sleep, food or rest. He is become more than a PhD in HIV
and STDs by this time. How HIV originated? What are all the genotypes?
How is the HIV replication? What is HIV RNA, DNA? Why CD4 counts are
important? What are the HIV conspiracy theories? You ask anything, all
the answers are ready. Some people becomes a pseudo HIV activist too.

He might have been using a condom or not, his roller coaster ride of hiv
scare already begun. Sometimes condom slipped during withdrawal, condom
broke, found blood on condom, even if condom intact (but who knows there
was some small tear?), he did oral on her, she did oral on him, ****ed
her nipples, did open mouth kissing (bleeding gums), you name it, there
are one hundred reasons for him to worry. He recounts the events again
and again after he went with that prostitute. He also starts self
diagnosing for hiv ARS (acute retroviral syndrome) and finds usually
acne (for him it is hiv rashes), night fever (due to anxiety), oral
candidiasis (many reasons), peripheral neuropathy (numbness and pain in
legs and hands - either withdrawal symptom of some medicine or just a
feeling), diarrhea (food problem), swollen lymph nodes (just a feeling
or due to frequently checking whether it is swollen) and things which
may be associated with other infections. If someone is still a bachelor,
this prostitute-adventure will happen when he is just engaged or the
marriage is fixed. For married people, this will happen when they are
just planning to have their first baby. See the misery. For a few months
the ISP, Labs, Psychiatrists, MD doctors in the city is going to make a
nice money. He visits numerous websites for HIV information. Each one
gives different versions of the stories of transmission of HIV. He is
the sufferer and within weeks he goes for a ELISA and STD panel and all
the results are all negative.

By the time his wife returns or he returns home. The family notices that
he is abstaining from *** and taking some extra precautions at home. If
he used to drink alcohol occasionally, he drinks now lot more. They
wonder why?. The wife starts exerting pressure on him to reveal what
really happened to him. He breaks down and tells his wife the whole
story. One of the biggest foolishness, much bigger than he had *** with
a prostitute. Depending on the nature of wife, she tells the story to
her family or keeps it as secret, but surely she is not going to believe
her husband anymore in ***. The whole family relationships are maligned
and if he has children, they too suffers. He also looses his inhibition
of telling others and tells this story to some of his friends (another
foolishness) hoping to get support from them. These friends instead of
treating him as a victim, keep a distance from him, as they believed
that he is a friend with good morale, but he is not. Friends spread the
news in the town and now he becomes an isolated guy. Poor chap. All
because of one foolish act of ***ual adventure.

Those who are rich enough goes for a PCR test. No viral load. Still he
could not convince himself. He makes one hundred calls to CDC hotline if
he is in US. CDC guys gets irritated and he gets scolded for his
impatience. If he knows the prostitutes phone number, he calls her and
plead with her for a HIV test. He offers to pay for the test and even
some extra money. What a shame to go back to the poor prostitute and ask
her to do a HIV test for him. The reaction of the prostitute, most of
you can guess. US guys also have another workaround for HIV testing.
They go and line-up for donating blood to Red Cross. Free testing for
full hiv/std bundle!. If he is working Arab countries he flies backs to
his home country for a HIV ELISA test. He keeps on changing MD doctors
for not sympathizing with him. The guy used to save every penny by
eating two square meals a day or not smoking, can be spending money like
a sultan . He also makes overseas calls to HIV/AIDS hotlines ump****
times. But no solace.

He looses his sleep and having insomnia. The testing for HIV goes on and
on and all the results are negative. The Lab girl can recognize him from
200 meters far and she pleads him not to come until 3 months are passed.
But no avail. Every 15 days he is there. Who knows when the antibodies
will suddenly pop up? He may loose interest in his normal activities and
can get depression. Or he may become alcoholic. A full blown worried
well. At worse he may attempt suicide. He may loose his job. His brain
is really screwed up and there is no solution in sight. He may not
recover even after 3 month negative ELISA since the feeling of guilt and
loss of self esteem is deep rooted in his mind. Psychiatry does not
offer much help and only can prescribe benzodiazepine drugs to control
his anxiety. Depression or Bi-Polar drugs takes enough time to act or
the psychiatrist himself need ample time to experiment with drugs to
make this person stable. Worst of all, he may relapse into prostitutes
again, the very cause of his distress. Prostitutes - Testing becomes a
compulsive behavior. The very fact is, some prostitutes are very service
minded and can be addictive as you get much better treatment from them
compared to your wife.

But time cures every thing. After about 6 months continuous ELISA test
and psychiatry help the person can become normal again. Counseling can
reinstall the persons lost self esteem, self confidence in a due course
of time. He can be normal again. May be a sum of money is lost or a job
is lost he can start everything from scratch. Those who are religious,
can pray regularly and gets god's help to get out of their agony.

All the people who are going to prostitutes are not becoming "worried
wells" for that matter. It is generally who are weak in mind gets this
syndrome. They may be already having some underlying mental diseases
like depression, bi-polar or alcoholism. There are also people who
regularly test for hiv and regularly visit prostitutes. They are the
"safe ***" activists. But it is always better to be on the safer side
and do not involve in any illicit *** adventure for your sake and your
family.

Single-handed crusade against AIDS
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kannan nair

Worried Well syndrome

This syndrome can grip into anyone who became scared of becoming
infected with hiv due to some action of their own. Even healthcare
workers are sometimes plagued by this syndrome. This can cause severe
monetary loss and affect the mental health of the sufferer and family.

Other people get into this syndrome after doing a risky or brothel ***.
Majority people experiencing this problem are those who once or few
times visited a prostitute. Most of the people visiting brothels or
prostitutes are married people and most of them are in the age group of
30 to 45. They ponder an idea of having some extra *** for a long time,
but stay monogamous and were good husbands. Due to some cir***stances
like - On a tour to another city or country, wife is away for a
vacation, attending a loose party with alcohol etc. they engage in a
risky behavior sans their hiv/std knowledge. At that time they may be
under the influence of alcohol and having an elevated mood. Their
hiv/std knowledge at that time will be too little. Having done that
stupid act, they start surfing web for hiv/std information.

Imagine his shock when he finds that, he need to wait for 3 months for
a clean HIV chit. He was thinking, it is like another VDRL test and can
be done in the same week to get cleared of the scare. Then some websites
write exaggerated stories about HIV and transmission and also lot about
other STD's. Especially Hepatitis B, C, Herpes etc.. and he reads all
this without sleep, food or rest. He is become more than a PhD in HIV
and STDs by this time. How HIV originated? What are all the genotypes?
How is the HIV replication? What is HIV RNA, DNA? Why CD4 counts are
important? What are the HIV conspiracy theories? You ask anything, all
the answers are ready. Some people becomes a pseudo HIV activist too.

He might have been using a condom or not, his roller coaster ride of hiv
scare already begun. Sometimes condom slipped during withdrawal, condom
broke, found blood on condom, even if condom intact (but who knows there
was some small tear?), he did oral on her, she did oral on him, ****ed
her nipples, did open mouth kissing (bleeding gums), you name it, there
are one hundred reasons for him to worry. He recounts the events again
and again after he went with that prostitute. He also starts self
diagnosing for hiv ARS (acute retroviral syndrome) and finds usually
acne (for him it is hiv rashes), night fever (due to anxiety), oral
candidiasis (many reasons), peripheral neuropathy (numbness and pain in
legs and hands - either withdrawal symptom of some medicine or just a
feeling), diarrhea (food problem), swollen lymph nodes (just a feeling
or due to frequently checking whether it is swollen) and things which
may be associated with other infections. If someone is still a bachelor,
this prostitute-adventure will happen when he is just engaged or the
marriage is fixed. For married people, this will happen when they are
just planning to have their first baby. See the misery. For a few months
the ISP, Labs, Psychiatrists, MD doctors in the city is going to make a
nice money. He visits numerous websites for HIV information. Each one
gives different versions of the stories of transmission of HIV. He is
the sufferer and within weeks he goes for a ELISA and STD panel and all
the results are all negative.

By the time his wife returns or he returns home. The family notices that
he is abstaining from *** and taking some extra precautions at home. If
he used to drink alcohol occasionally, he drinks now lot more. They
wonder why?. The wife starts exerting pressure on him to reveal what
really happened to him. He breaks down and tells his wife the whole
story. One of the biggest foolishness, much bigger than he had *** with
a prostitute. Depending on the nature of wife, she tells the story to
her family or keeps it as secret, but surely she is not going to believe
her husband anymore in ***. The whole family relationships are maligned
and if he has children, they too suffers. He also looses his inhibition
of telling others and tells this story to some of his friends (another
foolishness) hoping to get support from them. These friends instead of
treating him as a victim, keep a distance from him, as they believed
that he is a friend with good morale, but he is not. Friends spread the
news in the town and now he becomes an isolated guy. Poor chap. All
because of one foolish act of ***ual adventure.

Those who are rich enough goes for a PCR test. No viral load. Still he
could not convince himself. He makes one hundred calls to CDC hotline if
he is in US. CDC guys gets irritated and he gets scolded for his
impatience. If he knows the prostitutes phone number, he calls her and
plead with her for a HIV test. He offers to pay for the test and even
some extra money. What a shame to go back to the poor prostitute and ask
her to do a HIV test for him. The reaction of the prostitute, most of
you can guess. US guys also have another workaround for HIV testing.
They go and line-up for donating blood to Red Cross. Free testing for
full hiv/std bundle!. If he is working Arab countries he flies backs to
his home country for a HIV ELISA test. He keeps on changing MD doctors
for not sympathizing with him. The guy used to save every penny by
eating two square meals a day or not smoking, can be spending money like
a sultan . He also makes overseas calls to HIV/AIDS hotlines ump****
times. But no solace.

He looses his sleep and having insomnia. The testing for HIV goes on and
on and all the results are negative. The Lab girl can recognize him from
200 meters far and she pleads him not to come until 3 months are passed.
But no avail. Every 15 days he is there. Who knows when the antibodies
will suddenly pop up? He may loose interest in his normal activities and
can get depression. Or he may become alcoholic. A full blown worried
well. At worse he may attempt suicide. He may loose his job. His brain
is really screwed up and there is no solution in sight. He may not
recover even after 3 month negative ELISA since the feeling of guilt and
loss of self esteem is deep rooted in his mind. Psychiatry does not
offer much help and only can prescribe benzodiazepine drugs to control
his anxiety. Depression or Bi-Polar drugs takes enough time to act or
the psychiatrist himself need ample time to experiment with drugs to
make this person stable. Worst of all, he may relapse into prostitutes
again, the very cause of his distress. Prostitutes - Testing becomes a
compulsive behavior. The very fact is, some prostitutes are very service
minded and can be addictive as you get much better treatment from them
compared to your wife.

But time cures every thing. After about 6 months continuous ELISA test
and psychiatry help the person can become normal again. Counseling can
reinstall the persons lost self esteem, self confidence in a due course
of time. He can be normal again. May be a sum of money is lost or a job
is lost he can start everything from scratch. Those who are religious,
can pray regularly and gets god's help to get out of their agony.

All the people who are going to prostitutes are not becoming "worried
wells" for that matter. It is generally who are weak in mind gets this
syndrome. They may be already having some underlying mental diseases
like depression, bi-polar or alcoholism. There are also people who
regularly test for hiv and regularly visit prostitutes. They are the
"safe ***" activists. But it is always better to be on the safer side
and do not involve in any illicit *** adventure for your sake and your
family.

Single-handed crusade against AIDS
Copyright 2003©2004 Manoj at http://manoj.bizhosting.com/

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robert e. lewis

<snip of account of obsession>

This sounds like an old Ray Bradbury short story about a man who murders
another man and then begins wiping every surface in the house he might have
touched, to make certain he's left no fingerprints. He becomes obsessed,
since he cannot be certain what he might have touched, better safe than
sorry, he's caught by the police in the attic, scrubbing away at every
corner of the house.


Single-handed is certainly safe ***, but you can even use both hands and not
have to worry about contracting HIV.