How do you stop from driving yourself crazy? When I got pregnant with DS, it
was just after our wedding and we were just thinking about it. So when I got
pregnant right away, we were nicely surprised. Now, that we are planning and
working on getting pregnant, I find I'm becoming obsessive about it and it's
only our first month trying! AF is not due to the 20th, but I wish there was
some way I could find out sooner. I know that a home-based preg test will
not work until around the 20th or after...so what do I do until then? I
know that the best thing is just to relax and not worry about it, but for
some reason, I'm terrified of not being able to get preg for a 2nd time, and
really really hope I get pregnant right away. Anyhow, Thanks for listening
:-)

Ang
Mom to Ian- April 2001

I was try to get pregnant with my second for 6 months until it worked. On
the 6 month (June) that was the month I was trying not to get pregnant but I
found out I was ovulating late. So Bam, Here I am 10 weeks and 4 days
pregnant and happy that I am. Take is easy and try before and after your
"ovulating time". You maybe early or late.

Jennifer Outon
Wife of Michael
Mom of Matthew Born 8/4/00
Due Date 3/6/04

The first few cycles I couldn't function at all during the 2WW, I
would drive myself completely insane. Every itch, cramp or pain
would convince me I was pregnant. After a few cycles I realized
this couldn't go on like this, and I made a firm decision: as
soon as the TTC takes over my life, I'll stop it. The scare of
not TTC is far worse, so I managed to get myself to function again.
A weird mindgame, but it works for me....

And another thing: I've been keeping a diary of how I feel during
my cycle. A lot of my symptoms are PMS related, but very similar
to early pregnancy symptoms. Now that I have a good idea of what
to expect, I'm less frantic about what the signs could mean.

--
-- I
mommy to DS (13m)
guardian of DH
TTC #2
War doesn't decide who's right - only who's left

I think I've seconded this approach before, but I'll do so again :-) When we
were TTC, I started keeping a little pocket calendar (freebie from Hallmark)
where I noted all of my "symptoms" as I noticed them as well as the first
day and last day of my cycle, any spotting, weird twinges, etc. It was
really handy when I would start to get fanatical about my symptoms, because
I could look back at previous months to see what had happened then. Since I
found out I was pregnant in January, I have kept keeping the calendar
throughout my pregnancy as well (the calendar started in November and I
pulled the 3 previous TTC months out of the first calendar and stapled them
in the front of the new calendar). That is handy as well--I wrote down in
brief my HCG blood test numbers, baby's heartrate when we heard it, "It's a
boy!" on the 21 week ultrasound and so forth, as well as my miscellaneous
things that happen during pregnancy (first felt movement, hiccups, noted the
progressive number of weeks pregnant on each week up to the due date, etc.).
I keep a pregnancy journal as well with much more info, but the calendar is
a good "quick glimpse" of how this pregnancy is progressing. I figure it
will be handy for when we TTC number two, both during the trying and the
pregnancy, becuase I could say, "what happened last time...." and have a
quick reference at my fingertips instead of trying to remember off the top
of my head or wading through pages and pages of a pregnancy journal!

Okay, my commercial for the benefits of keeping a freebie Hallmark TTC and
pregnancy calendar is now complete ;-)

--
Em
edd 9/23/03
(34 weeks today!)

is being obsessed with a person considered ocd? i was obsessed over
someone when i was 17 but as i said i believe it was my circumstances of
losing my mom and being depressed that lead to this. i was hospitalized
for this but was never said to have ocd because of this. i know others
have come here saying they were obsessed over someone so does that
constitute ocd?

i guess it depends on the circumstances. i've been obsessed with people
before, and would call or email repeatedly, even though i didn't want to. i
would drive past their house, or to places they might be, as if i couldn't
control my own car. i think that the obsessive thoughts of the person (does
he want/hate/love me? is he with someone else?) combined with this
compulsive behavior (calling/emailing over and over and over), then being
disgusted with myself over my compulsive behavior, yet not being able to
stop, would be considered OCD.

is this the kind of obsession you mean? or was yours different? why were
you hospitalized (if you don't mind)? i'm lucky i wasn't arrested for some
of my behavior (hacking into his email account, watching his house, etc),
but i never thought of it being a mental illness until years after it
happened.

-kelly

I've been the object of someones obsession before. It's no fun. This
person/persons would not leave me alone for anything. This drastically
disturbed my OCD and anxiety so much I became suicidal. I figured if I had
to put up with this shit for the rest of my life, I might as well be dead.
I felt so hopeless. I hope they never start calling me or following me
around again because the last incident nearly pushed me to commit a feloney.
I keep reminding myself that God is with me and try to move on. Strange
how people I want to like me never notice me but if there's a freak out
there they'll find me. LOL I'm a freak magnet. : )

Joanna

How do you hack an e-mail account?

become a systems engineer with a special interest in computer security.

or at least, that's how i did it.

-kelly

A guilty conscience would drive me mad.
Joanna