Cyndirella1211 2015-12-08 15:40:47
I went to the adoption party today! It was a lot of fun and there were A LOT of
kids there! I brought my little one along. Dont think it was a good idea. U
will see why in a bit. When we got there I had to have a name tag. Blue was for
people who never adopted, Green was for families who have adopted and gold was
the social workers and children. My daughter didnt get a tag because she…well
was already adopted! The event was held in an in-door playground where the kids
ran free. I let my daughter run around and play with the kids. Before my very
eyes people were approaching her to see if she was available! I put a stop to
that quite quickly! About and hour into it my daughter came to me looking
frustrated and told me “Mom people wont stop asking me who my social worker
is”. So finally I went and got her a name tag that was green. A lot of people
at the event recognized me from the newspaper article and came up to my to talk
about my experience…that was really cool. I wasnt used to all of the
attention. In person I tend to be very quiet and shy until u know me so the
extra attention felt strange.
I introduced myself to the social workers at various booths to see what they
had to offer and it was really neat because they already knew of me! Not from
the newspaper article but from the “talk” around social services! I guess a lot
of my workers raved about how well my daughter took to her placement and they
also told other workers how hard we worked to help our daughter get over her
adoption disruption issues. My daughter at one time in her life was one of the
DSS cases that was basically labeled as difficult because nobody wanted her due
to her history and behaviors. Anyway…… to make a long story short…….
I saw an adorable 2 year old girl and spoke to her worker. The worker already
had my home study and was glad to meet me in person…lets see if she calls!
Throughout the day my daughter was attached to the hip with a young asian girl.
I was so taken by this 10 year old girl and the 3 of us has such an amazing day
with each other. I found myself talking to her worker and telling her that I
was interested in this 10 year old! Keep in mind I wanted someone under 5 but
this girl really touched my heart….lets see if I get a call on this one! lol
As a whole the day was GREAT There were a few moments that made me
uncomfortable at the event. I walked around and observed the kids because I
didnt feel that throwing myself at them would be productive. If a child came up
to me to play I would play but other than that if I had an interest in one of
them I kept it between myself and their worker….there were some people there
luring the kids with CANDY and holding their hand like they owned them!!! I
overheard people making promises and we were told NOT to discuss futures with
them at all. We were told to attent the event and act like it was a get
together…NOT…kid shopping and thats how some people were treating the
I met a lot of other workers from various agencie and gave them my info. I told
them how I would love a sibling group. Their eyes lit up because sibling groups
are hard to place.
I will keep u posted and let u know if the phone rings this time!!!!
*~`~ Cyndie ~`~*
K3_e81 2015-12-08 15:40:57
Wow Cyndie – sounds like you guys had a lot of fun!! Interesting what
may come of it…a 10 year-old (!) – that would be kinda neat for your
DD to have an older sister. Keep us posted!
As for sib groups, DH and I have thought about that for our second and
third – or possibly third and forth. I’ve never met anyone who has
done it, though.
Anyway, glad the two of you enjoyed your day! Do you have a link to
Christy 2015-12-08 15:41:00
Good Luck Cyndie!
I am praying you get calls from all of them!! 🙂
Sammy 2015-12-08 15:41:02
I saw a documentary on tv once about an event like this. Cried the whole
time. The kids were placed behing a great big gate and stared at by
prospective a parents. It was like they were animals in a zoo!
I’m soooo happy it wasn’t like that where you went.
+++++++ vibes coming your way!
Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.