the problem with a flip is that it is not fast enough to be a winner
(usually, especially at the higher levels). The other problem is that it
leaves you slightly off balance, and definitely it leaves you very close to
the table. So, after a pro executes a flip, he finds himself totally leaned
forward and in. At this point, he has to deal with a big shot coming back.
This is not an ideal position to deal with a big shot. Unless your flip was
a winner. But it usually isn't, because yes the pro's serves are hard to
flip for a winner.
I find the pros would rather do a short return of a short serve. This
enables them to stay in balance and get back in time for the next shot
(hopefully the opponent will try to flip
Overall, learning to return serves short is a great thing to learn. It's a
really good neutralizer. And it gives you more choices (between attacking,
or pushing long).
As for camaraderie, it really depends on the person, and on the club. Here
in AZ most everyone is willing to help each other as long as some basic
common sense things are done (for example, the top players need to get in
their own practice time first before they can start giving free lessons,
etc. )
marco